Waiting to Inhale: letting life take our breath away to love
“In, Out.
Deep, Slow.
Calm, Ease.
Smile, Release.
Present Moment, Wonderful Moment.”
This is a Buddhist mantra used to teach the power of breathing. With each line of the mantra symbolizing a step, people can really build an honest-open relationship.
The first line says “In, Out.” Simple? yes; but also the most effective step. With each breath, we take in a new relationship. We’re supposed to breathe out the negative — relationships that keep us from being happy and fulfilled. But we don’t! We’re so scared that last inhale would be our last…so we hold it in. We all know what happens when you stop breathing: you die! So many of us are living zombies. Learning to exhale can save so many love lives.
Now that you’re taking in new life and breathing out old/unnecessary relationships, you can begin to live with ease. Every girl has created her own prince charming in her mind since a young age, and that’s fine, but also know that the same prince can come in many forms: not just Will Smith. When you take your energy off what you can’t control and focus on what u can, you naturally open your focus to really see the many blessing right there in arms reach.
Now for the couples, who are lucky to have already found one other, calm and ease works for you too? Calm is significant because many times we find a guy or girl who we think could be “the one” (after only one week) and we begin to foresee the relationship lasting for more than 5 years from now Yet, even great relationships come to an end. Spending 6 months thinking about those next 5 years may cause you to miss out on experiencing 6 great months of love and happiness with someone else.. So STOP, breathe in calm, and breathe out ease; take relationships a day at a time.
The next step is deep and slow. When getting to know someone, don’t be afraid to reach them on a more personal level. Getting to know someone for more than what is solely on the exterior secures a foundation that can handle many relationship issues that most couples cannot avoid. Also, do not rush things with your partner One key to a long happy relationship is always having something new to learn or do with your partner. If you do everything in the first 3 months things get boring.. So although you really want him to meet the family after only 2 weeks, just wait.. Taking things one step at a time early in the relationship makes for a much longer experience of happiness.
Smile, Release. . Smiling is compared with brightness and light. If you and your man get into a fight, smiling will bring light to the darkness. Once you begin to smile and realize the pettiness of the fight, release that negativity with your exhale. This technique can’t work if you don’t release because the anger will still be in your spirit and as the saying goes: what goes in must come out. Eventually your anger will be released …but when??
Now we’re at out 5th and last breath–present moment, wonderful moment. The present moment is the best because it is the only time you can control and enjoy yourself with all your senses. So when you’re out on a Saturday night with your girls or the guys, don’t worry about the fact that you’re single; enjoy the music, your friends, and your new shoes. When you begin to live in the present and only the present, you’ll exude an energy that is contagious to anyone. You’ll start to notice people coming up to talk to you for no reason, your days will be more enjoyable, guys or girls will become attracted to you from all angles. At this point your present moment will become your wonderful moment–thus you can take your 6th breath…what happens at the 6th breath? Well that’s the future so who cares?! 
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